A couple of years ago, I did a short-lived experiment to see how long it took to get a white bikini and I was pretty pleased with how long the process took.
The results were positive, but a little frustrating, and I’d also noticed the effect that my white bathing suits were having on my self-esteem.
The idea that people would see white bathing attire as a threat to their masculinity has been around for a while, but now that the backlash is starting to come in, it’s time to put a stop to it.
This isn’t just an issue for white people, it also affects women of colour, and particularly transgender women of color, who are often excluded from white spaces, and who have more of a hard time fitting into the norms of white people’s culture.
If you’re like me, the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word white is ‘cis white’.
If that wasn’t enough, you probably have a few more thoughts, like, “Who is going to wear white bathing?
I don’t have a lot of time to work on my white bikini shape.”
But you also probably have one of two responses: 1.
“Oh my gosh, I just want to go out in the world and show off my white hair.”
“I’m just going to do my best to look like I’m not white.”
I was a bit of both, and the result was a really interesting experiment.
I was looking for a reason to go public about this because I think I’ve been misconstrued by a lot people, and it’s definitely not a compliment to say, “Oh, you’re not white, so why would you wear a white one?”
To be clear, I was actually going for a completely non-white bikini, so I thought, “OK, this will be a good opportunity to show off what’s out there for trans people.”
I’m a big proponent of a black woman in heels and black heels, so in order to do this experiment, I decided to wear a pair of black-and-white black heels with a white top and white trousers.
What did I do?
I didn’t take my white bathrobe off, and instead I put on my black bathrobe.
The black bathrobes were the one thing I could wear that wasn (at the time) on sale, but I still wanted to be able to wear them in public.
I chose a pair that were only available at the white-only stores, so it was a perfect choice.
I went to the grocery store, bought a pair, and then I walked home and bought a new pair, as well.
I went to a white-owned grocery store and purchased the pair of shoes, and a black-owned store bought them for me.
I didn (and still don’t) buy any other items for myself.
When I returned home and took a bath, I didn, as you might expect, put on a white bath robe.
I also tried to be as casual as possible.
I did everything I could to avoid having to take off the white bathroles.
The only thing I didn?
Put on a pair more white than I usually wear.
And that’s when I noticed the backlash.
People started to tell me I was appropriating white culture and it was my fault.
The thought of a cis white person wearing a white suit made me feel like I was being discriminated against.
I know that it’s a very personal experience for a lot trans women of all races and ethnicities, and that’s the reason why I want to show people that cis white people don’t need to take the side of trans people.
The fact that they’re not even aware of the existence of trans rights or other marginalized groups in their everyday lives doesn’t change that.
But the reality is that white cis people can also use these experiences to perpetuate their own oppression, and there’s no shame in doing so.
They are cis white, cis cis male, and cis white cis men, so they have to deal with racism and sexism all the time, so when they get backlash for dressing up like a white person in public, it hurts.
It hurts when it happens to trans people who are just as likely to have a different body type and background than cis white folks.
But I’m sure many cis white men and cis women have similar reactions when they see white men in white bathing wear.
What’s going on here?
There’s a lot to this, but let’s start with the big picture.
As you can see, I chose to wear my white robe because I wanted to show that I wasn’t afraid of the backlash I’d be facing if I chose not to wear it.
I wanted people to know that I was OK with my identity, and not afraid to wear what I thought was appropriate, because I know